Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Pardon my rant...

If you hopped over here to read a funny, or a new topic-- Stop reading...
Pardon me, while I get on my soap box and rant for a while.
Today was the kinder celebration--
It didn't go well...in my opinion...
Normally Shane leaves school directly after lunch -- however~ since the celebration was right after lunch I got there in time to walk with Shane to the gym. I figured that I could be Shane's chaperon and that way if he was causing a disturbance I could take him out. Leaving the teacher free to do her"job".
(When we were lined up in the lunchroom the teacher was busy talking with the principal, and so they didn't realize that Shane had goldfish crackers in his hand, and so when the line got up to where the teacher and the principal was she immediately took them from Shane, and admonished him-- We never take food out of the lunchroom, and then the principal says, and definitely not to the gym.)
This is only the third day that Shane has eaten lunch in the lunchroom and yet they are expecting/demanding perfection ....I don't think so--- Did they really have to correct him at that moment in that manner? ?Yeah... I don't think so...

There was no pre-talking at this point, no mention of what was going to happen ...

Then when they got in to the gym which is loud and noisy --
Shane had to sit on the end and not cross the line, Shane was somewhat wiggly... of course-- this is not anything that he has had experience with --
The teacher made a point to pull him out of the gym 3 times --- without giving him a clear warning before -- He wasn't being hugely disruptive, and yet she kept taking him out of the room and then giving him a talking to in the hallway.
Finally I had enough, I came out and told her that if Shane wasn't doing well enough for "her" than I would just take him home--- I was crying and mad at this point. To see her interact with my son in that way was demeaning and rude. If my son is being a pill then I do believe that he should be taken out and spoken with but he was not ... in my opinion being a "pill". She was as usual being picky and micro managing the situation.

My frustration is at an all time high with this teacher, tomorrow is a day at the park and even though I already paid for it... I am choosing to keep my son with me for the day-- I have no doubt that she would do and say things that would make me angry-- and so I am choosing to keep Shane in a positive loving environment! I also am choosing to keep him home for the last two days of school next week... Having him at school is doing, nothing in my opinion but angering me and frustrating Shane. Shane says she is letting the kids watch movies and not notifying the parents, -- I get that it's the end of the year, but this lack of communication and lack of planning is just tacky.

5 comments:

HennHouse said...

Rant away... it is your blog. And we love you. Funny stories AND frustrations.

Bethany said...

You have every right to rant! Keeping frustrations inside may lead to spontaneous combustion :) It sounds like in spite of knowing that Shane needs explicit preparation for changes in routine that spell out expected behaviors and what is going to occur, his teacher is only setting him up to fail. Also, he is in Kindergarten!! Kids wiggle! Unless they are standing up, poking their neighbor, or screaming call it a success! And there is never a need to publicly humiliate a child by removing them in front of all of their peers when a simple reminder along the lines of "quiet hands please" or "shake your wiggles out and then sit with a quiet body please" would work. And has she ever reinforced his POSITIVE behavior? He needs opportunities to feel successful in school and to know that he is capable of meeting expectations and is a valuable member of his class! I agree with you that there is no point in subjecting him to the last few days of school, and I think he deserves a huge reward for surviving the school year with an environment created to make him fail!! I am proud of his accomplishments in spite of his teacher!! And of course having a Mom who is involved and engaged in his learning helps a LOT too!!

Anonymous said...

OK my friend...you said to say it. She made my Stace cry....OFF THE BITCH...! Just for you my love. OH..and for Shane though don't tell him what I said.

mommyto3duckies said...

That is a terrible way to treat any child. I wouldn't have put up with it either. Good for you, keep your precious little boy home where he's happy and loved.

Childlife said...

Oh, Stacey... I'm so sorry! I wasn't even there to see it and I was getting progressively annoyed with her as I read how things went. Almost seemed like she and the principal were pushing him toward conflict -- not a situation that ANY kindergartner is likely to do well in, but you know, I think Shane DID to well!

He kept it together in spite of all of her nonsense and that's quite an accomplishment! Well done, Shane! And as for wiggles -- he's a kindergartner for goodness sake -- they wiggle! I'm so glad you're done with her and I'm praying for a much better teacher for Shane for next year. Hugs, Stacey -- you're a great advocate for your kiddos!

~Michelle

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